While you may feel like your life has changed dramatically since having a baby, your friends are still a part of who you are. They offer shared experiences and understanding. They can help you balance your life, encourage you, and give you a different perspective on things.

That’s why it’s important to make time for old friends. Here are some tips.

Plan ahead

It’s easier to take your time when you’re planning to do something rather than hoping it will happen on its own. Make an appointment to catch up with friends, but don’t worry if you have to change plans – having a new baby can make things unpredictable!

Encourage friends to join

Friends are interested in your life no matter what’s going on, so you can encourage them to join your new life as parents.

If your friends have children, they are likely to be understanding and supportive. Even if your friends don’t have kids, they’re still welcome to hear what it’s like to be a parent—enjoying the positives and sympathizing with the negatives. You may have a new perspective on things that could help you.

Choose the right activities

Friends who don’t have children can still enjoy outings with you and your family. It’s all about choosing the right activity, whether it’s feeding ducks in the park, an afternoon movie, or a trip to the pool. Why not take the stroller for a walk and talk to a friend?

Keep it simple

Gatherings that are easy to organize can take the stress out of the gathering.

For example, a dinner where everyone brings a dish is a great way to invite people without having to worry about cooking and organizing. Another advantage is that your baby can go to bed at the usual time.

Find a babysitter

A regular babysitter and a “date night” can give you the opportunity to go out, watch a movie, or have dinner together. Grandparents, relatives and friends are always welcome to help. You can also organize a babysitter swap with friends who have children.

Talk about old and new interests

You may feel like your only identity is that of a parent, but to your old friends — especially those without children — you’re just yourself. So in addition to your baby and your life, talk about a wide range of things right now that are of interest to you and your friends. 

• How to find new friends
• Now that you have a child, another circle of friends opens up to you – other parents. Here are some great ways to meet other parents:
• Join a new parent group at your child and family clinic or community centre.
• Make an effort to chat at your local playgroup, daycare, or play center.
• Try to keep in touch with new parents you meet at the hospital.
• Go to the park so you can chat while your kids play together.
• Go to the “Parents and Babies” sessions at your local cinema.
• Join a reputable online forum where you can chat with other parents.